TW// summarized: The White Elephant | Rape and Molestation x Dr. Matthew Stevenson (4/7)

Rape and molestation are things that need to be talked about. They have brutal effects, especially on underage women. The devil tries to use them to derail your purpose, to derail your destiny. They have brutal effects, especially when you’re underage, and there are several misconceptions about them. #1, not only men molest. It’s everywhere, and it has to be talked about.

Secrecy is the strength of sin. It’s painful to uncover, to deal with it. But rape and molestation both remain present in the darkness, so they can’t be confronted by the Light. They have to be addressed fully, from their roots. 

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men, as theirs also was. But thou hast fully known my doctrine, manner of life, purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience, Persecutions, afflictions, which came unto me at Antioch, at Iconium, at Lystra; what persecutions I endured: but out of them all the Lord delivered me. Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution. But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived. But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learned them; And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.

II Timothy 3:1-17 KJV

Verse 3 mentions natural affection. This is a phrase that’s often overlooked, but being without it changes how you are. You can be demonized to the point where you can do inhumane things and won’t feel them or their consequences. We usually think of inhumane people as serial killers and terrorists, but people that are aroused by young children fall under this same umbrella. Sex trafficking is another, real, issue, even in the church. You have to lose touch with your humanity to enjoy having someone tied up in your basement. The humanity in these people has been deformed and suppressed. Romans 1 is not an extreme case. Some of the most reprobate (unprincipled) are highly anointed, highly talented. God can use some of them to set you free. He will use the reprobate for the sake of those who need Him. The anointing on somebody to help others it not the same as the anointing they have within them. Feeling the anointing is not the same as being changed by and submitted to it. The reprobate can prevent God from coming in them. God can and will use people that are on their way to hell. Being used by God =/= being pleasing to God. God confirm’s His Word, not the lifestyle of the person speaking it.

There are people who have been in sin so long that they only feel convicted when they’re caught, but you’re in a dangerous spot when you’re numb to wickedness. When you first start falling in your flesh, you’re grieved, full of Godly sorrow. Conviction in Godly sorrow is the leverage of the Holy Spirit to reach in your heart and turn you towards repentance. If He can get you to feel bad about what you’ve done, He can turn you in the direction of the kind of grief that brings the glory of God. God is near to the brokenhearted. The conviction that makes you feel the filth in the flesh is deep, but it’s not condemnation. The glory of God will come faster to people who know they’re not right than people who are content with their titles, talents, pedigrees. God doesn’t care about your image; you have to come out of it to get delivered. Don’t let your reputation, your dignity keep you from going up for an altar call. 

Matthew 18 shows how abrasive Jesus could be.

“But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.” 

In verse 6, the word offend refers to a person setting a stumbling block in the way of someone or something else. Jesus says it’s better for someone to drown, in the sea, with a stone around their neck, than for them to get in the way of someone else coming to Him. God makes life a living hell for those who deliberately break a child because of their own brokenness, if they don’t repent. They will die until they die. Why? They’ve derailed the purpose He’s had planned. Sex and sexuality are meant to be introduced through the ministry of marriage. God has a problem when it’s introduced illegally through a demonic importation. Going back to the last message, it is automatic that if a mother is impregnated through rape, a spirit of rejection is on the child. It hard for a mother to reconcile wanting a child if the child was conceived against their will. And rape isn’t just for unmarried people. Sex should be mutual and for the married, but a lustful spirit can grow into dangerous, disgusting things because it’s never satisfiedMark wrote about this too.

“And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched: And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.”

In verse 43, Jesus says He’d rather have you handicapped and holy than fully together and on your way to hell. Even if you have to maim yourself, don’t allow yourself to become a monster of molestation. If you’re in a church that doesn’t talk about lust, it won’t matter if you wear all white to service. The demons will take over as soon as you take the white off, sometimes even before.

“But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her: then the man only that lay with her shall die: But unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbour, and slayeth him, even so is this matter: For he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her.”

Deuteronomy 22:25-27

Betrothed does not mean engaged, it means purposed for. This was written at a time where parents would make an agreement between each other for their children to marry. They then belonged to each other. A damsel is a girl before puberty. Moses says when you are the instrument of rape, you open yourself up to death. You’ve given it a right to you. Why? The rape victim has nothing in them that’s worthy of death. The devil will use rape to perpetuate guilt in the victim, to perpetuate that they deserved it, that they could’ve done something differently to avoid what happened to them. In the eyes of Moses, a molester was a murderer. When someone is raped, their life is essentially taken away, because their right to choose has been taken away. Until something confronts the act, the victim has to carry the memories. When you don’t get to escape the perpetrator, it’s even worse. The healing process becomes more difficult. Death has to be broken off the act of molestation. Difficulty in conceiving and consecutive miscarriages are common in rape victims because their bodies have not healed from that trauma. Some traumatic experiences are so profound that they force the mind to forget that they happened.

Your history with people can have you relaxed in your discernment. Always be wary, especially if you have children. Don’t be so eager to live your life that you don’t examine who’s in it. Get filled with the Holy Ghost. The dreams will come, the visions will come. You’ll know who to stay away from, who to keep your children away from. You need to be discerning and in touch. Sharpen your spiritual focus. Stay away from dead churches; a tambourine won’t fix this. You need the Holy Spirit; He’s your helper. Operate in the Spirit. The fruit can’t reveal what’s necessary to heal wounds of molestation, of rape. You need His gifts as well to be preventative and protective. God talks to you; learn how to listen in.

Some people don’t have the courage to confess. It is necessary to be in the presence of a prophetic anointing. The woman at the well may have never come clean had Jesus not had the power to know. Molestation is the devil trying to beat God at imparting your purpose, and it must be overcome.

Spirits are real. What psychologists call wet dreams are really incubus and succubi, demons that sleep with you in your sleep Have you met a happy porn star? The lifestyle is often introduced to them, often through molestation, so they throw their purpose away for the sake of survival. Sexuality was introduced to them the wrong way, so they start to believe the wrong things. Spirits also mature. No 8 year old wants to get on Facebook live and kill themselves; that’s the spirit of suicide adapting to the outlets left open to it. But until we move the mercy seat off the pulpit, we won’t make progress. You can’t get people delivered without acceptance.

There is power in confession. Deliverance is for the desperate. The woman who only wanted to touch Jesus’s hem had been bleeding for 12 years, and was still bleeding on her way to get to Him. Imagine how humiliated she must have felt, how many people must have watched her in disgust. She knew she wouldn’t get to Him, but she also knew that even in His hem, there was healing. Let go of your ego. You will be tormented if you protect your talent and abuse your soul.

You will need mentoring. You will need teaching. It doesn’t end when you fall on the ground, be wary of charismatic churches. Even after the spirit leaves, your person has to be reset. It only takes water to put out a house fire, but the house has to be redone, renewed. It will take time.

In Deuteronomy, the damsel was left in the field alone. Overwhelming loneliness is profound in the life of a rape or molestation victim; they live with it. Even if they’re surrounded by people, they can still feel alone. Saying “I love you” over and over won’t convince them of your love. They have to be brought out of that proverbial field, through deliverance. Show them the way.

Author: Iyaniwura Olarewaju

† | naija | nj | Cornell

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